Iconic Men – Quick Links

It’s been a while since I’ve written a new blog post, and thought that I should bring some structure to the future posts that I create.  Below is the breakdown of what I’ve written, from the beginning of this blog to now.  Over the next few days/weeks, look for a better layout so you’re able to find what you’re looking for.

Best of luck, and keep moving forward:

Mentality

• The Moment – (10/18/13)
• Primal Disconnect – (10/15/13)
• Sound Familiar? – (10/15/13)
• Self Success – (10/20/13)
• Clearing Out The Cobwebs – (10/14/13)
• Fear Of Judgement – (10/11/13)
• The Process vs The Idea –  (10/10/13)
• Take Action – (10/4/13)
• Careful Of Self Deception – (10/6/13)
• Self-Talk’s Potential – (10/9/13)

Red Pill

• SMV – Is It Real? – (10/24/13)

Improvement Programs

• Primal Kingdom – (10/20/13)
• Start Writing – (10/4/13)
• 5 Morning Steps To A Great Day – (10/6/13)
• Making Positive Affirmations Work – (10/13/13)
• Accountability To Succeed – (10/13/13)

Reposts

• Where Anger Leads – (12/3/13)

Personal

• Mental Suicide – (1/13/14)
• The Beginning – (10/4/13)
• College To Now – (10/4/13)

SMV – Is it Real?

I was reading about a post on reddit.com/r/theredpill that talked about a study that confirmed how men tend to get more action later-on than women, and how the numbers were justified. This discussion centers around the concept of the sexual market value (SMV for short) of an individual as they go throughout their life.  Composed of looks, financials, and knowledge, the SMV for an individual depends on their natural biology, as well as active action to improve their own value.  Better descriptions and articles of SMV can be shown here:

http://therationalmale.com/2012/06/04/final-exam-navigating-the-smp/

In general, the hypothesis follows that women tend to gain their highest value as they approach their late teens though their mid twenties. This type of graph was based from well thought out personal experiences of many males, so it could be attacked for its data integrity because of the bias of the individual who created the graph.  In my personal experience, I’m finding this SMV graph to be completely true in my day to day life (23 year old male, solid job, improving my value constantly)

But I wanted to know if there was a way to put some science behind the numbers.  Which is what the Kinsey Institue has provided (Source at bottom of article). Their study covers a vast amount of information related to the sexual tendencies of individuals, but the two graphs that I focused on are below (snapshots, unmodified, bad quality, but you’ll get the idea with the graphs):

I thought that because my title at work is a Business Analyst, I could take that data and put it in a form that the average indidivual would be able to understand in a snapshot, with some justifications.  This is not a graph displaying the sexual market value (SMV) of an individual.  What it is displaying is direct results of the the average SMV of the sample size, indicative of the US population.  (Note: My apologies for the soft language, can’t have that all over my computer while at work)

These numbers were broken down and weighted based upon the average number of encounters per category (Monthly = 1, 2-3 times/week = 10, etc.) so that we could multiple the percentage by this average to get a weighted value.  Those weighted values were then averaged to produce the average number of encounters/100 individuals/month, which was then divided by 100 to create an individual output of # of Encounters/individual.  (for some reason my image quality is horrendous, so I’ll look at putting the excel file on a shared drive for people to access)

That finalized information is displayed below:

(Image = Crap, Analysis = Gold)

Those numbers were then put into a display, broken down into the three categories (Single, Partnered, Married).  The results speak for themselves, but of course being an Analyst, I put my own words beneath each of them.

Singles Information

 

Analysis: This is probably the most stark comparison and example of the hypergamy and SMV models combined.  It’s very evident from the layout of how women tend to peak with regards to fulfilling their needs before the age of 30, and then experience an immediate drop in number of encounters.  The drop-off could be due to many factors (decrease in SMV, decrease in desire for more encounters), but it shows the objective decrease in encounters.  For males, you can see how an increase in SMV would result in this data output, with the number of encounters being much higher and sustained between the 30-60 year old period compared to their female counterparts.  The differentials also show that the males in the 30-60 year old brackets are securing the women in the 18-30 year old bracket (possibly the 70+ bracket as well).

Partnered Information

Analysis: Partnered individuals are showing a hybrid between the Singe and Married graphical outputs.  In comparison to the Single data, Partnered averages track each other more closely.  Causation could be due to multiple figures, mainly because an individual is a partner with their male counterpart.  In comparison to the Married data, we are still seeing the same trend that the Single’s shows, where women peak earlier than the men, but men show their own peak in the following years.

Married Information

Analysis:  This is what I would think is expected for individuals who are married.  The numbers should track each other (in an ideal situation, the curves would match exactly).  Confirms the thought that as a marriage continues, the amount of sexual encounters, on the average, decreases.

I could do some t-testing, ANOVA, p-value, etc. if need to make some of my statements based in scientific conclusions, but I didn’t feel like it at the time I wrote this.  That would add more weight to the analysis that has been completed by my end, but it seemed a little too obvious to get into that much detail.  But if this becomes an issue I will gladly create that analysis (and bore to death half the crowd reading this).

So now we actually have some SMV data correlations that is backed by a solid study done by a 3^rd party to reduce the chance of bias.  Kinda cool when “what you think is probably true” can be confirmed through some analysis of well collected data.

I would appreciate it if someone would confirm my analysis so we can get the data displays verified.  Somewhat of a “this guy is full of shit” analysis.  I can send the excel analysis if anyone is interested, or can post it if want to look at the logic behind it.

Source of data: http://www.kinseyinstitute.org/resources/FAQ.html#frequency

Primal Kingdom

We are a busy society by nature, where we don’t spend the time to thoroughly analyze people and situations.  Instead, we tend let our minds make quick assumptions about a person or situation after a small amount of information has filtered through to our biases into our minds.  This isn’t exactly a bad way to go about life.  It’s how our ancestors were able to survive situations when other animals would ponder why the jaguar had such sharp teeth.

But that primal side of our mind is still around and actively involved in our day to day lives.  Just think about the times you’ve made quick judgments based on someone’s choice of clothing, car, skin cleanliness, shoes, the way they walk, the way they talk.  I’m talking about the judgment that enters into your mind as a knee jerk reaction to a situation, before your higher mind comes in to try to combat the primal response.  There’s no real way to hold back that initial swing you feel.

It doesn’t matter how judging someone who’s overweight as being an irresponsible lard is a “mean” thing to do.  It doesn’t matter if you’re a nice guy but don’t workout to maintain a fit body, because the girl doesn’t initial care compared to the hulk who can “protect” her if things go down.  Other people’s minds see things based upon their past experiences, like muscle memory, as well as the primal impact it would have on your life.  The feelings and emotions that people feel when they enter into a new situation is a result of thousands upon thousands of pieces of information that their mind is analyzing in the first few seconds of an interaction. So if you want to try to convince other people’s primal side of their minds that it’s doing the wrong thing…well best of luck.

Feels harsh?  Too bad.

Instead, I recommend that you focus on yourself. Redesign your personal vessel to reflect what you know exists in your interior so that you can begin to attract individuals who enjoy being around who you truly are.  Dress your body the way you want to be perceived.  Workout to look the way you want to look in order to attract others who are built with the same ethic.  I heard a good quote before that went something like this:

If you wish to be with a queen, you must first become a king

This directly applies to relationships, but it also applies to any aspect of your life.  So figure out what type of kingdom you wish to build, and craft your body and exterior to reflect that internal belief of what you want to become.

Careful of Self-Deception

It’s stunning how the body and mind can convince itself of what it wants to believe, especially when it thinks it has an understanding of all sides of the situation. But in reality you’re dealing with a tumultuous weather pattern inside your mind. The issue is in your conscious mind thinking that it can track all the projections, dreams, aspirations, and hard facts. In reality…most the time it doesn’t have a clue what it’s facing.

An analogy to this type of situation is what commanders experience in the “Fog of War.” That there are three things you know: what you know you know, what you know you don’t know, and what you don’t know…that you don’t know.

The third part is what makes humans wander into the impossibilities. It’s the fourth door in a three door system where we think there is a gem of wealth, security, and happiness.

And it’s with that possibility that we assemble in our minds the fiction of the fourth door, which causes some of us to overstep our bounds when we take risks that step beyond logic or calculated risk. It’s the fourth door that makes us believe in the psychopaths who say that it’s there, only to leave you burned and wondering how you were so delusional to think it was possible.

But it’s the fourth door that can cause the greats to become the greatest because of the belief in the unbelievable.

So you’re dealing with a double edge sword. If you second guess to much, you’ll be paralyzed with indecision. But if you don’t question your own judgement, you might find yourself out to dry without knowing how you got to that point.

So where does that leave you? Well my take is that it’s a balancing act of being honest with yourself and what you want, and being able to convey that in a world where most people tend to hide their aspirations behind backhanded comments to protect their own insecurities.

In the end, you’ll have to learn through experiences. Don’t take risks that are done based off of pure emotional outbursts or desperation. Take the risks knowing that you’re ready to learn and take responsibility for what happens. Whether or not it fails, you’ll learn something new. Something that will continue to build your rock solid foundation to launch the next decisions that either build or degrade your path to your ultimate version of yourself.

Take Action

You’re probably reading this on the computer, or tablet, or phone, or something, just whatever.

I’ve been in the same place you might be at right now, again and again, when you’re on reddit.com/r/getmotivated, or some sort of website that tells you that you’re worth more than you think, and you sit there and nod your head. But what do you actually do from that moment, do you agree and then click next, hoping for another good photo to make you feel better about the situation that you’re in, hoping that someday it’ll cause some serious amount of money, or cute girl, or sexy as fuck guy, to land in your lap?

I know that feeling. And I’ve lived it. Day after day, month after month, of debilitating sitting-ness (I termed that). Where you tell yourself that in the next five minutes, you’ll get to that paper, or get to cleaning that room, or calling up those friends, or hitting up the gym, or shaving your face and getting a better sense of who you are.

And then you start to get angry, angry at the motivational pictures, second guessing the motives of those who wrote them. I know that it turns from motivation to thinking that the person who wrote down the quote was actually just a failed individual who wanted their own validation through an upvote, or positive comment, or whatever the fuck they want to justify their own abject failure in their life. And you know what, maybe that’s true for some of them. Maybe that’s true for a lot of them.

But…fuck you. Fuck you for being a conceited piece of shit who projected your own emotional failures on someone who actually tried to make something. Fuck you for being angry at people who just wanted to push you in the right direction. Fuck you for not taking responsibility of your own path in life. And you know what, fuck you for not caring enough about yourself for taking the reins of your own life and becoming something, ANYTHING, that you can be proud of.

I don’t care if it’s the accomplishment of eating healthy for one meal, or two, or for a whole day, then week. I don’t exactly give a fuck if it’s even just taking a shower once a day and preparing yourself so you actually have a chance at looking in the mirror and not feeling the need to yell at the soul that’s staring back at you, with the dreary eyes and failed mind. Just shut down your pitiful little excuse generator in your head, and tell it to go to hell, because that’s where you’re all going to go if you don’t. I’m not talking the brimstone and fire type of hell. I’m talking about the hell when you wakeup a couple years down the road, and finally, due to the impending visit from death, have to start eating right, or have to start taking drugs because you don’t have enough confidence in yourself to get started and making the right decisions.

And sure, maybe you want to have the same story that many successful people have, reaching rock bottom and then building yourself from your own ashes. But realize that for the few that made it from rock bottom, were hundreds who told themselves the same thing…only to have died without even a notice from society.
Take the calculated risks necessary to get to where you want to get, because you’ll be dead soon enough. Make it a journey your children will remember and be inspired from. Take the moment to shut off the TV and sit in silence and think about where you want to be, and visualize the path there.

But whatever you do, stop clicking next on the screen for the best motivation, because you’re not going to find it. It’s in you. Take a second and realize that all the pictures here and songs and quotes are all just trying to kick start that fire inside of you. Be the one who kindles it to a flame, and torch what’s necessary to make it to the end.